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Ask the Provider Q&A

Ask the Provider

No use tip toeing around the elephant in the room. Caring for your loved one is sometimes a love-hate relationship. As their primary caregiver you get little to no recognition. The physical, verbal and emotional battering can take a toll. Sound familiar?

Like the reporter in this video, my journey began with a phone call one afternoon.

If you are not sure how to navigate these waters, “Ask the Provider” is your safe place. 

What’s on your mind today? Fill out the form below and get the answers you need.

Ask the Provider Form
Please do not include any protected health information on this form.

Should my Dad be in a nursing home or assisted living facility?

My Dad is 80 and lives by himself and I noticed he is forgetting where he put stuff. He is getting real cranky and wants to sleep all the time. Hates taking a bath. I’m afraid to leave him alone. Should he be in a nursing home or an assisted living facility?

Hi Carol, I would recommend you begin with your primary care physician and let them know your concerns. They will make referrals to have your dad evaluated and together once properly diagnosed you will be more informed about your options. If it is determined that he is not ready for a nursing home then please tour the homes on this site and visit with the providers listed. They are subject matter experts, some with many years of experience.

Marcia Miller, Owner and Operator of Serenity Adult Family Care Home

My sister is falling a lot!

Hi, my sister is 75 and lives in a large assisted living and she seems to fall a lot and is now in rehab again. What makes these homes on this site any better? Who is to say she wouldn’t fall there too.

Hi Beth,

I am sorry about your sister’s situation. Not sure why she has been falling so it’s hard to say that a private home is the best for her without a proper assessment. I will say that the best compliment that the private homes have received came from one rehab center that said “We know you guys are doing it right, because we see fewer residents coming back and forth from the residential facilities”. That was one person’s observation. I hope that helps.

Marcia Miller, Owner and Operator of Serenity Adult Family Care Home

Does my mother need adult family care or memory care?

My mother suffers from dementia and can no longer care for herself, although she is in a fairly early stage. Many of the homes that provide Memory Care are expensive and don’t have that “homey” feel to them. Do some of the Adult Family Care homes that I see also provide Memory Care?
Thanks, Jackie.

Yes, many of the Adult Family Care homes or Assisted Living homes can provide adequate care for people like your mother. Once you find a home that you think she will like you can inquire if they can accommodate your Mother’s special needs. Good luck in your search, and bless you for all that you do!
Marcia Miller, Owner and Operator of Serenity Adult Family Care Home

Bathing in the elderly – everyday?

Should our seniors have a bath more than 2-3 times a week?
Thanks, Natalie.


Senior incontinence is a real issue. Having something as fundamental as a bath everyday is not a given in many facilities. Many seniors no longer find this an enjoyable experience. It can be painful, scary or a medical challenge. This is not a true representation of seniors in general.  
Marcia Miller, Owner and Operator of Serenity Adult Family Care Home